Personal Stories

How to Let Go Without Giving Up

Aug 2, 2020

I often write about how essential it is for perfectionists and compulsives to let go...

Perceived Chaos and the Need to Control

Jul 11, 2020

People who are compulsive and perfectionistic struggle mightily with disorder and unresolved situations. These may...

Wisdom for the Pandemic From Folks Who’ve Been There Before

Mar 30, 2020

I just came across an inspiring story by Sylvia Baer, a literature professor at Rowand...

6 Steps to Stop Being Judgmental

Feb 22, 2020

Those of us who are driven tend to lean forward and try to push our...

Keys to Facing OCPD Anxiety and Fear

Jan 26, 2020

People who are compulsive, workaholic or Type a personality have a, well, special relationship with anxiety. It propels them to get lots done, but it also makes it hard for them to enjoy life. And those at the unhealthy end of the compulsive spectrum, those who have Obsessive-Compulsive Personality Disorder (OCPD), have such pressing anxiety that they may never enjoy life.

Authenticity: Why Being Realistically Real Matters

Jun 15, 2019

Living authentically feels good and is the best way to create the diversity we need to solve problems. But it’s not so easy to do, and, unrestrained authenticity is not such a wise approach all the time anyway. Unbridled authenticity in the wrong places can lead you to be rejected and hurt, and it can lead to hurting others needlessly if you say everything that comes to mind.