To have a good relationship we need to learn to speak the love languages that our partner can understand and feel. This can be particularly uncomfortable for people who are obsessive-compulsive, because they are most comfortable with one language. But learning a new language is always good, and the energy and deternmination that come with being obsessive-compulsive can help you to learn it.
Some time ago I came across the concept of demand sensitivity, a psychological lens which...
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Since we’re beginning a new year, I thought it might be a good time to...
In a previous post I sang the praises of healthy perfectionism and described how we...
If you’re a Type A, driven, perfectionist, high-achieving, or obsessive-compulsive parent, you’re probably just as...
Narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) and obsessive-compulsive personality disorder (OCPD) have some similarities that can make...
Self control does have some benefits for relationships. But it also has dangers. If your self-restraint keeps you from expressing positive and intimate feelings, it may leave your partner feeling disconnected and unloved, which doesn’t encourage them to express their feelings either, and then things start to go downhill quickly. But if you can be more intentional in using your self control to actually express more, the relationship is more likely to thrive.
According to a study published in 2017, if you have avoidant attachment, that is, if...
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