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Clinging to Sacred Cows:  Identity and Worth in the Compulsive Personality

Clinging to Sacred Cows:  Identity and Worth in the Compulsive Personality

Jan 21, 2025

People with compulsive and obsessive tendencies tend to hold on to things—money, objects, time and ideas. We imagine that these things we hold on to make us more secure. But too often they bring us more stress than security. Some of the things we hold on to constitute our identity and worth. These are sacred cows in the worst sense—traits that we feel we can’t question much less let go of. And these cows are a heavy burden to carry. We’ll start with a story from the Buddha, explore scarcity mindset, and talk about two examples of women struggling with their sacred cows. Finally, we’ll discuss how letting go of sacred cows can lead to more fulfillment.

Feeling Stuck? Try Generosity.

Feeling Stuck? Try Generosity.

Nov 5, 2024

Since people with obsessive-compulsive personality traits often feel that the right thing is to hold on to money, time, objects and compliments, they may miss out on the benefits of generosity. And since they tend to get engrossed in goals, projects, and fixing things, they may neurologically wire themselves into a narrow focus which excludes generosity. I can’t guarantee you’ll feel happier if you engage in large or small acts of kindness, but I do believe there is a very good chance that you will at least feel like your life has more meaning—and, silver lining for the compulsive—you’ll feel like you have more control over your mood.

Regarding Your Battle with the World’s Stupidity

Regarding Your Battle with the World’s Stupidity

Sep 24, 2024

But perhaps most importantly, one of the best strategies to help you retire from the Stupidity Police is to simply look in the mirror. It helps me to let up on other people just to recall my own stupidities—without lambasting myself for them.

Announcing the Healthy Compulsive Project Podcast

Announcing the Healthy Compulsive Project Podcast

Jul 19, 2023

Wait, The Healthy Compulsive? Isn’t that an oxymoron? Not in my book. And I’ll tell...

Delaying Gratification: The Good, The Bad, and the Downright Dangerous

Delaying Gratification: The Good, The Bad, and the Downright Dangerous

Apr 30, 2023

Some people just don’t know when to have a good time.  They habitually put off...

There Will Be Roosters: A Personal Story about Obsessing

There Will Be Roosters: A Personal Story about Obsessing

Mar 3, 2023

Obsessing occurs when the capacity to focus and solve a problem by thinking runs into...

Meditation for Type A Personality: An Interview with Teacher George Chen

Meditation for Type A Personality: An Interview with Teacher George Chen

May 15, 2022

Meditation for Type A personality, and people who are driven or obsessive-compulsive, might seem like...

What Are You Trying to Prove by Being So Good?

What Are You Trying to Prove by Being So Good?

Oct 30, 2021

Now that Santa Clause has come and gone, year-end reviews are done, and the in-laws...

Being Frugal: Good Self-Care or Too Emotionally Expensive?

Being Frugal: Good Self-Care or Too Emotionally Expensive?

Sep 6, 2021

Being frugal can either enhance or undermine our well-being. Depending on why we do it...

Finding The Meaning of Compulsive Personality Traits

Finding The Meaning of Compulsive Personality Traits

May 23, 2021

I came across something the other day that perfectly expresses my own thoughts about the...

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