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humiliation
25 Nov
1

4 Ways Perfectionists and Obsessive-Compulsives Try To Avoid Humiliation

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This essay explores how perfectionist and obsessive-compulsive personalities construct “fortresses” to avoid humiliation, embarrassment, and shame. Through vivid stories and cultural examples—from Steve Jobs to Michael Jackson—it identifies four compulsive types (Boss, Workaholic, People-Pleaser, and Obsessor) and shows how their strategies both protect and imprison them.

A related and more specific unhealthy motivation that can seize people who are obsessive-compulsive and perfectionist is trying to avoid humiliation, embarrassment and shame. It’s a very limiting life strategy.

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need for control
18 Nov
0

How a Goddess Became a Modern Disease: Ananke, OCPD, & the Need for Control

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The very common but unrecognized disease of obsessive-compulsive personality disorder (OCPD) has a long and inglorious history—though they didn’t call it that 3000 years ago. They would have called it hubris, because the people who had this disease believed they knew everything and had the gall to try to control everything.

But they also had Anake to help them with this problem. When people recognized the goddess of compulsion and fate, they chilled out and let go of their fantasies of control. But while we might be familiar with Zeus, Apollo, and Dionysus, today we are oblivious to Ananke, and the limits she imposes. But these limits don’t go away.

And in our efforts to avoid them we become diseased.

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connection
04 Nov
1

From Alienation to Connection: Healing the Spiritual Side Effects of Compulsive Perfectionism

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Perfectionism distances us rather than connecting us. There’s always something wrong with the world, so we give it the cold shoulder and go our merry way. But this actually causes alienation, that vague but ever-present sense that we are at odds with the world around us and that it’s a dangerous place. We don’t belong and it makes us anxious. As if an imperfect world could never be our world.

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flexibility
17 Oct
3

How to Pivot to a Life Worth Living Through Flexibility: A Review of ACT

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To make a dent in the pile of material you might feel you have to read to be up on the most recent developments in mental health, here’s a practical review of the relatively new approach to therapy called Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, with brief examples of how to apply it. Because one of the main goals of ACT is flexibility, it can be very helpful to anyone struggling with obsessive-compulsive personality disorder (OCPD), or to those just challenged by some obsessive-compulsive traits, perfectionism, workaholism, or Type A personality.

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serious
12 Aug
2

No Laughing Matter: What Being So Serious Does to Your Life

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Seriousness is an occupational hazard for obsessive-compulsives, Type A’s and perfectionists. Being serious can hurt relationships, mental health and physical health. Yet many of us feel duty-bound to be serious and we lose out on the benefits of humor and laughter–which can melt the rigidity which comes with being serious.

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micromanaging
01 Jul
5

Breaking Horses: 6 Signs That You’re Micromanaging

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How do we know if we are micromanaging? If you constantly look over someone’s shoulder, give them detailed instructions, distrust them, and make mountains out of molehills, it will discourage creativity, diminish morale, and disrupt relationships. It may even lead to them ignoring you. It brings about the opposite of your desired effect. Productivity, responsibility and ingenuity all decrease. It’s like trying to break a horse to train it. Instead we need to macromanage, to consider the larger picture of our values and priorities.

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perfectionist father
14 Jun
5

Navigating Challenges for the Perfectionist Father: From the Horrific to the Heroic

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How do perfectionist and compulsive traits shape fatherhood? This post explores the challenges and opportunities for the obsessive father—how those traits can either alienate or elevate, harm or heal. Learn how self-awareness, values, and mindset can help fathers navigate the line between heroic and harmful.

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unearth the past
27 May
1

Should You Unearth the Past? How Looking Back Can Help us Move Forward

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Is burying the past holding you back? Most of us live as if we are still in the past without being aware of it. Discover how understanding your personal history can help you reclaim buried strengths, rewrite limiting stories, and live more freely in the present.

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insecurity
29 Apr
4

This is Not a Test: 3 Steps to Winning the Battle Against Insecurity

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Insecurity is often the cause of people becoming unhealthy compulsives rather than healthy compulsives. It’s as if life were a test and, fearing we will fail, we resort to rules, rigidity and control to prevent failure. It can be so prevalent, yet so hard to see, that it’s like the air we breathe. But rather than trying desparately to pass the test, we can take a pass on the test, and adopt ways of living that have more meaning.

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make life easier
08 Apr
4

Want to Make Life Easier? Break the Habits that Make It More Difficult Than It Needs to Be

Posted by Gary Trosclair 1 Comment

Life is not easy, and we actually make it harder if we imagine we can sashay through it effortlessly. But we can also make life more difficult than it needs to be by imagining that the path forward is steeper than it really is. To make life easier let’s explore the effect of the “Mountain Mirage,” its causes and its cures.

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  • 4 Ways Perfectionists and Obsessive-Compulsives Try To Avoid Humiliation November 25, 2025
  • How a Goddess Became a Modern Disease: Ananke, OCPD, & the Need for Control November 18, 2025
  • From Alienation to Connection: Healing the Spiritual Side Effects of Compulsive Perfectionism November 4, 2025
  • How to Pivot to a Life Worth Living Through Flexibility: A Review of ACT October 17, 2025
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