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But perhaps most importantly, one of the best strategies to help you retire from the Stupidity Police is to simply look in the mirror. It helps me to let up on other people just to recall my own stupidities—without lambasting myself for them.
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At the healthy end of the obsessive-compulsive spectrum we find meaningful urges that were lost when urgency to deal with anxiety and insecurity took over. Creating, producing, and fixing can fulfill our need for purpose if approached mindfully. But too often our urgency leads to an amnesia for meaning.
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Some habits that bring you into therapy could slow your progress down, but some of your traits, used consciously, could speed you up. This is the nature of therapy, and working these through is what makes it brighter on the other side. Any effort you put into making therapy work will also make your life work.
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My approach to psychotherapy includes the removal and reduction of symptoms, and, at least as...
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Building a solid foundation of basic respect, and furnishing it with self-compassion will diminish imposter syndrome. Rather than splitting yourself between how you look and how you feel, image yourself as whole, congruent and harmonious, all parts embraced by consciousness. Then you’re ready to face those challenges that are only partly in your control.
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Imagine a couple going through fertility treatment. They’re expected to make love at certain times...
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We’re all familiar with the results of typical hoarding behavior: newspapers piled in towers reaching...
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In my last post I argued that it’s important for us to know that we...
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Contents ToggleThe Varieties of Insecure ExperienceOvershooting Your GoalNever EnoughThe Search for AssuranceAlways EnoughReason 1: Basic...
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Some people seem to use their compulsive tendencies adaptively, while others are used by their compulsive tendencies maladaptively. This could mean the difference between being productive and connected, versus being stuck and at odds with others. This interview explores what makes the difference, and how to get your compulsive tendencies working for you.
The Healthy Compulsive book is now available in paperback in addition to hardcover and e-book format:
Healthy Compulsive Book
If you’d like to use your time in psychotherapy more effectively, check out my book on therapy.
