Being Frugal: Good Self-Care or Too Emotionally Expensive?
Being frugal can either enhance or undermine our well-being. Depending on why we do it...
Compulsives In Relationships
People Pleasing, Resentment, & Other Relationship Killers
People pleasing and obsessive-compulsive personality occur together far more than many might think. Some people put all their determination and perfectionism into making other people happy with the assumption that it will come back to them in love, support or affirmation. It often does not happen that way.
Seven Ways to Achieve More Flexibility in Your Relationships
Compulsives and perfectionists often feel responsible for making sure that things don’t go wrong. We’re naturally more meticulous, future-oriented, and risk averse. And all of those tendencies serve a very important function in relationships. But we need to be smart about how we use these tendencies. Without flexibility, they hurt more than help.
How Compulsive Perfectionists Can Cultivate Happiness
Our North American culture has become obsessed with happiness and has made itself miserable in...
How to Let Go Without Giving Up
I often write about how essential it is for perfectionists and compulsives to let go...
Perfectionist Partners and Moral Gaslighting
Gaslighting. It’s become a popular term to describe what happens when one person tries to...
Should You Tell Your Partner How To Be A “Better” Person?
Should you tell your partner how to be a better person? I mean, doesn’t it...
Why Perfectionists Become Persecutors in Difficult Relationships
In my last two posts I’ve been exploring how Rescuer, Victim and Persecutor roles affect...
How Rescuer, Victim and Persecutor Roles Lead to Difficult Relationships
As I wrote in my previous post about Karpman’s Triangle, three archetypal roles typically lead...
Critical Partner: Rescuer, Victim & Persecutor Roles
Look closely at any conflict with a critical partner, and you’ll usually see certain roles...
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