How Compulsive Perfectionists Can Cultivate Happiness
Our North American culture has become obsessed with happiness and has made itself miserable in...
Compulsives In Relationships
How to Let Go Without Giving Up
I often write about how essential it is for perfectionists and compulsives to let go...
Perfectionist Partners and Moral Gaslighting
Gaslighting. It’s become a popular term to describe what happens when one person tries to...
Should You Tell Your Partner How To Be A “Better” Person?
Should you tell your partner how to be a better person? I mean, doesn’t it...
Why Perfectionists Become Persecutors in Difficult Relationships
In my last two posts I’ve been exploring how Rescuer, Victim and Persecutor roles affect...
How Rescuer, Victim and Persecutor Roles Lead to Difficult Relationships
As I wrote in my previous post about Karpman’s Triangle, three archetypal roles typically lead...
Critical Partner: Rescuer, Victim & Persecutor Roles
Look closely at any conflict with a critical partner, and you’ll usually see certain roles...
17 Tips for Over-achieving, Ambitious, Compulsive, and Type A Parents.
To paraphrase Clint Eastwood, a parent’s got to know their limitations. This is especially true...
How to Get Along With a Partner With OCPD (Compulsive Personality)
A partner with OCPD (obsessive compulsive personality disorder), can be really difficult to live with....
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