If Your Partner Has Threatened to Divorce You
I get a fair number of calls from people whose partners have threatened to divorce...
Compulsives In Relationships
A Short Guide to Love Languages for People with Obsessive-Compulsive Personality
To have a good relationship we need to learn to speak the love languages that our partner can understand and feel. This can be particularly uncomfortable for people who are obsessive-compulsive, because they are most comfortable with one language. But learning a new language is always good, and the energy and deternmination that come with being obsessive-compulsive can help you to learn it.
What, Exactly, Do They Want From You? How The Demand Sensitivity Lens Mucks Up Our Lives
Some time ago I came across the concept of demand sensitivity, a psychological lens which...
Am I Being Passive-Aggressive? How to Know—and What to Do About It
Wondering if you’re being passive-aggressive? Learn how to spot the signs, understand your hidden motives, and shift toward more conscious, assertive communication.
Beyond the Switch: The Dark and Subtle Side of Punishment
Explore the true motivations behind punishment, its impact on relationships and society, and learn how to cultivate awareness to prevent destructive tendencies. Discover healthier ways to handle conflict and promote genuine justice.
OCPD: A Disorder of Priorities
Since we’re beginning a new year, I thought it might be a good time to...
The Role of Self-Deception in Perfectionism
In a previous post I sang the praises of healthy perfectionism and described how we...
5 Unintended Effects of Type A Parenting
If you’re a Type A, driven, perfectionist, high-achieving, or obsessive-compulsive parent, you’re probably just as...
Differences Between Narcissistic Personality & OCPD
Narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) and obsessive-compulsive personality disorder (OCPD) have some similarities that can make...
How Self Control and Inhibited Expression Hurt Relationships
Self control does have some benefits for relationships. But it also has dangers. If your self-restraint keeps you from expressing positive and intimate feelings, it may leave your partner feeling disconnected and unloved, which doesn’t encourage them to express their feelings either, and then things start to go downhill quickly. But if you can be more intentional in using your self control to actually express more, the relationship is more likely to thrive.
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Healthy Compulsive Book
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