Flexibility Vs. Doing the “Right” Thing in Relationships
Occasionally I come across a study that sheds so much light on the struggles that...
Compulsives In Relationships
How Compulsive Perfectionists Can Cultivate Happiness
Our North American culture has become obsessed with happiness and has made itself miserable in...
How to Let Go Without Giving Up
I often write about how essential it is for perfectionists and compulsives to let go...
Perfectionist Partners and Moral Gaslighting
Gaslighting. It’s become a popular term to describe what happens when someone tries to manipulate...
Should You Tell Your Partner How To Be A “Better” Person?
Should you tell your partner how to be a better person? I mean, doesn’t it...
A Short Guide to Managing Expectations at Christmas
Have The Best Christmas Ever! Yeah, right. Don’t even think about trying to make that...
Why Perfectionists Become Persecutors in Difficult Relationships
In my last two posts I’ve been exploring how Rescuer, Victim and Persecutor roles affect...
How Rescuer, Victim and Persecutor Roles Lead to Difficult Relationships
As I wrote in my previous post about Karpman’s Triangle, three archetypal roles typically lead...
Critical Partner: Rescuer, Victim & Persecutor Roles
Look closely at any conflict with a critical partner, and you’ll usually see certain roles...
19 Tips for Over-achieving, Ambitious, Compulsive, and Type A Parents.
To paraphrase Clint Eastwood, a parent’s got to know their limitations. This is especially true...
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