Perfectionism distances us rather than connecting us. There’s always something wrong with the world, so we give it the cold shoulder and go our merry way. But this actually causes alienation, that vague but ever-present sense that we are at odds with the world around us and that it’s a dangerous place. We don’t belong and it makes us anxious. As if an imperfect world could never be our world.
Insecurity is often the cause of people becoming unhealthy compulsives rather than healthy compulsives. It’s as if life were a test and, fearing we will fail, we resort to rules, rigidity and control to prevent failure. It can be so prevalent, yet so hard to see, that it’s like the air we breathe. But rather than trying desparately to pass the test, we can take a pass on the test, and adopt ways of living that have more meaning.
True Confidence is not confidence that you’ll get the decision right and everything will work out just fine and dandy, but that you’ll be able to handle whatever comes up—including your anxiety.
My approach to psychotherapy includes the removal and reduction of symptoms, and, at least as...
Building a solid foundation of basic respect, and furnishing it with self-compassion will diminish imposter syndrome. Rather than splitting yourself between how you look and how you feel, image yourself as whole, congruent and harmonious, all parts embraced by consciousness. Then you’re ready to face those challenges that are only partly in your control.
Imagine a couple going through fertility treatment. They’re expected to make love at certain times...
Psychiatrist Carl Jung liked to ask people, and I am paraphrasing lightly, “But then what...
This is the last in a series of four posts describing in greater detail four...
This is the second in a series of four posts describing four different types of...
You are not your Ego. No matter how big it’s become. As psychologists use the...
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