Why Compulsives Need Mastery in Their Lives
In my last post I harped about the importance of people with obsessive-compulsive personality consciously...
Science: Research & Theory
What Is Shame and What’s the Best Way to Deal With It?
I recently posted about the benefits of self-compassion in lowering the depression that perfectionism causes....
Self-Compassion: The Evidenced-Based Antidote to Maladaptive Perfectionism
Imagine two perfectionists. When Estella feels that she’s fallen short of her standards, she puts...
7 Ways Spending Time in Nature Heals the Driven Personality
There’s an increasing amount of research which suggests that spending at least two hours each week engaging with nature improves our well-being. And because of the epidemic of Nature Deficit Disorder (yes, it’s a real thing), an increasing number of healthcare professionals are even prescribing time in nature. This research implies that it’s beneficial for everyone, but there’s good reason to believe that it can be particularly beneficial for people who are driven, Type A, and obsessive-compulsive, because they’re faced with certain mental and physical challenges that being in nature can help with. Spending time in nature can help to balance a personality that is weighted far too heavily on the side of control, planning, perfecting, achieving and fixing.
3 Reasons You’re Having Anxiety Dreams
Anxiety dreams may seem simply like a nuisance at first glance. But slow down and pay attention and you might find they have something to tell you about how you are living and how you see your world. Issues of avoidance, authenticity, and being tested can all show up in anxiety dreams. Seen as a source of wisdom, these dreams can lead you in new directions should you choose to engage with them.
Conscious Resilience: A Key to Release From Overcontrol
Do you ever feel physically and mentally exhausted from trying to make things go a...
Want To Be Certain? Don’t Be So Sure
News Flash: After decades of getting people to trust their gut, build confidence in themselves,...
Being Frugal: Good Self-Care or Too Emotionally Expensive?
Being frugal can either enhance or undermine our well-being. Depending on why we do it...
Can Someone With OCPD Change?
I recently finished therapeutic work with a man whom I’ll call Fred. His story addresses...
The Origins of OCPD: Genes, Environment, and the Two Other Factors Most People Don’t Consider
Many people wonder how they became controlling, driven, and perfectionistic. Or, to use the clinical...
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Healthy Compulsive Book
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