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flexibility
20 Jan
5

Seven Ways to Achieve More Flexibility in Your Relationships

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Compulsives and perfectionists often feel responsible for making sure that things don’t go wrong.  We’re naturally more meticulous, future-oriented, and risk averse. And all of those tendencies serve a very important function in relationships. But we need to be smart about how we use these tendencies. Without flexibility, they hurt more than help.

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compulsive perfectionists
28 Dec
4

Taoist Wisdom for Compulsive Perfectionists

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While I find parts of the Tao Te Ching baffling, exasperating and mystifying, Lao Tzu’s encouragement to accept things as they are still conveys an attitude toward life that I find to be a good counterpoint to my driven nature. Since Taoist wisdom can be especially useful to people who are compulsive, perfectionist, and obsessive, I thought it might be helpful for me to share how this enduring and poetic book has helped me.

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compulsive perfectionists
23 Nov
5

How Compulsive Perfectionists Can Cultivate Happiness

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Our North American culture has become obsessed with happiness and has made itself miserable in […]

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compulsive hero
23 Sep
1

Are you a compulsive hero or a heroic compulsive?

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One way to free ourselves from unhealthy compulsive behavior is to understand our motivations, what drives and actually controls us. While we’re all unique, there are ancient and common patterns that underlie the roles we take on in life such as mother, father, warrior, healer, savior, priest, jester, caretaker and leader. These patterns are known as archetypes, and they’re illustrated in myths and symbols. These patterns exert a magnetic influence that can give us intuitive guidance and energy to help us do what we need to do. Or they can drag us into a perpetual rut of expectations and despair. Heroic energy can flow freely like water, or be frozen and rigid like ice.

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giving up
02 Aug
7

How to Let Go Without Giving Up

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I often write about how essential it is for perfectionists and compulsives to let go […]

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need to control
11 Jul
5

Perceived Chaos and the Need to Control

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People who are compulsive and perfectionistic struggle mightily with disorder and unresolved situations. These may […]

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perfectionist partner
26 May
12

Perfectionist Partners and Moral Gaslighting

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Gaslighting. It’s become a popular term to describe what happens when one person tries to […]

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obsessive-compulsive types
16 May
51

Understanding the Four Types of Obsessive-Compulsive Personality to Achieve Balance

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[Available in audio format at Google Podcasts and Apple, and Spotify.] As I’ve gotten to […]

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change your OCPD partner
09 May
13

Should You Tell Your Partner How To Be A “Better” Person?

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Should you tell your partner how to be a better person? I mean, doesn’t it […]

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stay calm
27 Apr
4

Psychological Research to Help You Stay Calm During COVID-19

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The pandemic presents particular psychological challenges for people who are compulsive, Type A, and driven. […]

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As much as 13% of the population has alexithymia, difficulty in knowing and saying what you feel. Perhaps better expressed as the unspeaking heart. And it's especially common in people with obsessive. e-compulsive personality traits. Learn more about causes, results and solutions at the Healthy Compulsive Project Podcast.
The most common dream I've seen in my 35 years of practice as a psychotherapist and Jungian psychoanalyst is the the exam anxiety dream--dreaming that you're back in school and unprepared for an exam. What's this about? #dreams #anxiety #Jung #ocpd #obsessive-compulsive Find out more at www.thehealthycompulsive.com
Anxiety is simply unnamed fear. Take it deeper, name the fear, and, while it may not disappear, it will not rule your life. Find out more by listening to The Healthy Compulsive Project Podcast episode 49. #anxiety #fear #OCPD #obsessive #compulsive
Letting go may be one the moist important skills we have to learn, but no one teaches us how. For more, check out Episode 41 of The Healthy Compulsive Project Podcast. #lettinggo
For more insights on how be a better partner, or how to deal with a difficult partner, especially those who are rigid, controlling and perfectionistic, visit thehealthycompulsive.com #perfectionist #difficultpartner #relationships #maritaldiscord #OCPD #OCD #obsessivecompulsive
To perfect originally meant to complete a meaningful task. Until the theologians got hold of it in the 14th century and added shame. Learn more at www.thehealthycompulsive.com. Search for "adaptive perfectionism." #perfection #perfectionism #OCPD #OCD #Jung #obsessivecompulsive #goals

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